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The teenage years are challenging, even without having to deal with chronic illness and transplant surgery. Emotional mood swings and the desire for increased independence can be especially intense for transplant patients, and typical adolescent behaviors may complicate healthy post-transplant living.
While a transplant offers great hope for a longer and more fulfilling life, it poses challenges of its own. Understanding what your child is going through can help you support him or her during this important time—and help you cope, too.
Research suggests that the brain is not fully developed until the mid-20s, and between the ages of 11 and 15, children enter a new stage of cognitive development marked by:
An increase in abstract thinking, including being able to understand hypothetical situations and generalizations
A tendency to compare themselves, others and the world to “ideals”
Better problem-solving skills
Because of the developing brain, there’s also lots of “in the moment” thinking—teens may have a hard time foreseeing the consequences of their actions. This can lead to risk-taking behaviors, such as substance abuse, increased susceptibility to peer pressure, sexual activity and, in the case of those with chronic illnesses, not taking their medications.
A big part of adolescence is navigating the territory between the security of childhood and the independence of adulthood. Teens often go through a period of egocentrism where they see the world as focused solely on them, or where they don't seem to understand how decisions they make today could affect their future.
You may also notice your child:
Wanting more responsibility
Testing boundaries and seeing how much he or she can get away with
Exploring his or her own identity—figuring out who he or she is, what’s important to him or her and where he or she is headed in life
Transplant patients must also incorporate physical restrictions, potentially noticeable scars and/or disabilities into their identities. How they do this may depend on when they were diagnosed, whether their illness was chronic or came on suddenly, and how well or sick they feel at any given time.
It can be extremely stressful and overwhelming for your child when he finds out he needs a transplant. He may feel:
Shock and fear at the severity of their illness
Doubt and denial about the need for transplant
Anger at the thought of physical, dietary and other potential lifestyle restrictions
They may also feel threats to their sense of independence, and have trouble incorporating the idea of “transplant patient” into their growing identity.
The waiting list
Being on a waiting list is a difficult time for patients and their families. Travel is restricted and steps need to be taken to make sure you can get to the hospital in time when an organ becomes available. It’s not uncommon to feel that your life is not your own. Depending on your teen’s situation, she may:
Receiving the call that an organ is ready
Getting the call that an organ is ready is a time of incredible relief—and anxiety, too. Remember that even after receiving a call, the transplant may not take place because the organ may be damaged or not as good a match as hoped, or because your child is too sick for surgery when it becomes available. This can cause significant disappointment, frustration and anger for your child and family.
Immediately after the transplant, medications and the recovery process could lead to temporary mental changes, causing your child to wonder if he or she is “crazy.” He may also feel anxious about leaving the hospital when the time comes, overwhelmed by idea of their new self-care routines.
Most transplant recipients experience extraordinary relief immediately after the transplant. Later, as the honeymoon period ends, the reality of living with a new chronic illness sets in. Recovery is a gradual process, and your child may feel disappointed by the pace or frustrated by setbacks. They may also show an increased interest in learning about the donor and feelings of sadness and guilt about the donor and donor family.
As your child begins to feel better and gets back to his or her regular activities, there is a risk that he or she may choose not to take his meds. This is called “non-adherence,” and may happen for several reasons:
After time passes the child feels healthy and sees less reason to take medication.
He or she may feel a strong desire to feel “normal” and ignore the requirements and restrictions that make him or her feel different from peers.
He or she may resent the need for close monitoring.
He or she may find it difficult to incorporate a medical regimen into a daily routine.
The medications may have side affects such as weight gain, excessive hair growth, mood swings and irritability that affect self-esteem.
He or she may feel angry at having to take medications, forget to buy or take them, and otherwise take his or her anger out on the medications.
Your child may also feel:
The whole transplant process, including the side effects of medication, has taken over his or her identity and decreased his self-esteem
He's lost a sense of belonging, dignity and respect from others
That his parents are overly worried, or over-involved, in his life and treat him like a younger child
Concern about falling behind in school, leading to feelings of anxiety and hopelessness
Scared and anxious about organ rejection and the chance of death
Perceived peer rejection and experience loneliness or withdrawal
The restrictions placed by his or her parents are too rigid
If the person who donated your child’s organ is living, your child may feel:
Obligation of gratitude to the living donor
Anxiety about demonstrating this gratitude
Anxiety about the “control” a donor has over them, especially if the donor is a parent
A wish that they had received an organ from a deceased donor instead
Pressure to care for an organ that they still see as the donor’s organ
Concern about potential health risks to donor (such as the donor’s ability to live with one kidney)
After your teen's operation, your support and understanding are very important. A transplant is an intense, stressful and emotional experience for both patients and families, and sometimes this can strain communication. Remember that good communication goes both ways:
Encourage your child to talk openly with you
Keep your initial focus on listening to what your teen is saying, and making sure you understand what he or she means
Sometimes what a teen needs most is simply to feel understood.
Here are some other ways you can support your teen before, during and after the transplant:
Have open and honest discussions about the need and the reason for the transplant.
Include your teen in decision-making when possible.
Make sure she knows what medication she is taking and why.
Help your teen figure out ways to remember to take medication on time (like setting an alarm on his or her cell phone).
Psychological support before, during and after the transplant might help you, your teen or your whole family.
Encourage your teen to interact with transplant patients near their own age. This can reduce feeling “different.”
Encourage them to take on chores and care for younger siblings as appropriate, so they still feel like they are contributing. A sense of purpose is very important.
Your child is the same person he or she was before the transplant. Help her to remember this by maintaining continuity with your family’s pre-transplant life, as appropriate.
Your child’s transplant team is here to help. Please contact them with any questions you have.
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